Confessions

by KT on February 11, 2013

  • The closet system has been installed & painted for over two weeks, but I’ve been lazy to take a picture of the finished product.  My goal this week is to take & upload pictures. We’ll see how that goes.
  • I’m obsessed with the game Candy Crush.  It’s a little embarrassing.
  • I know it’s awful, because she still has growing to do, but I’m ready for this baby girl to get here.  I’m increasingly uncomfortable & sleeping is just comical nowadays.
  • We told our families at Christmas what we were naming the baby.  I love her name & it means a lot to R & to me.  I’ll post a picture of a blanket that our friend made for us that has her name on it so you folks can know her name too.
  • I found writing thank you notes for my wedding much easier than writing thank you notes for a baby.  I don’t know why, but it was hard to express how grateful I am.
  • I think writing and prepping a Birth Plan is ridiculous. 
  • When someone asks me if I’m going back to work after the baby is born or what my plan is I get anxious & nervous.  Either way someone is going to have an opinion & I feel like I have to justify my plan.
  • I cannot wait to workout after the baby is born.  I know that I’ll probably be REALLY tired & find excuses, but seriously…this weight  - yuck!
  • I wish I lived closer to my sister, brother in law, and nephew. 
  • I’m much more organized at work now than before the New Year.  I feel like leaving won’t be that stressful on anyone.  It was touch & go there for awhile.
  • I danced in the bathroom on Sunday morning while getting ready.  Then I had to sit down for 10 minutes. 

 

Anything you’d like to confess?



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Weekend Whereabouts

by KT on January 21, 2013

I had a really low key, but fun & productive weekend.  Friday night I headed over after work  to a local mexican restaurant to celebrate one of my friend’s second pregnancies.  Rachel  & Michelle organized a small group of Charlotte girls for a diapers & wipes shower for Ashley.  Ashley is due just two weeks before me!  It was surprise for Ashley & her face when she walked into the restaurant was classic.  It was a really great night out.  The only thing I missed was a big fat margarita. ;)

Saturday REF slept in, which is something that he NEVER does.  He’s been trying to get over a cold that has been hanging on for about 2 weeks now.  He clearly needed the sleep.   After our slow start to the morning, we ran a few errands.  One of those errands was to The Container Store.  A few weeks ago we had the folks at the Container Store sketch out a closet design for the baby’s room & Saturday we pulled the trigger.  It will look something like this:

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It is being installed on Wednesday & I could not be happier.  REF & I were laughing that our lives have become so dull that we are excited about a closet system (one that isn’t even for us), but this is where life has taken us.

Later that evening we decided to go see Silver Linings Playbook.  Something I’m not sure I’ve shared on here yet is that REF & I love to go to the movies.  It’s always been a fun date night for us.  I realize we don’t have many of these spontaneous movie nights left so even though we were both tired we stood in line for the movie.

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If you haven’t seen this movie, do.  I absolutely loved it.  I know I’m emotional because of pregnancy hormones, but I was laughing & crying during this whole thing.  I don’t normally like Bradley Cooper, but he was amazing.  Jennifer Lawrence was perfect.  Robert De Niro & Jacki Weaver played their roles spot on.  Take the time to see this one in theater if you can.

After the movie we decided to get a bite to eat at the Mellow Mushroom across from the theater.  We never go eat out late anymore (9:30), but again…we’re trying to soak it all in.  We were pleasantly surprised that they had live music & it ended up being a really nice evening out.

Sunday morning, we did early church, breakfast, and napped.  After our naps we hung some new blinds in the baby’s room, our bedroom/bathroom.  I then decided that I needed to wash/iron our curtains and both of the bathroom shower curtains.  I guess we can attribute that to “nesting”, but who really knows.  I’m pleased with the new blinds in our bedroom & I think they look really fresh in the baby’s room, especially with the curtains we got for her.

What did you do this weekend?

 

 

 



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Home Improvements – Part Two

by KT on January 17, 2013

I took the “Before” pictures when we were basically all packed up.  We had pulled everything off the walls & started to move the furniture to the middle of the room. So, while these are “Before” they aren’t really what our house looked like!

BEFORE:

Before Front Door

 

This is from the hallway looking at the front doors.  The flooring that you see is some sort of fake, plastic(y) wood.  It made that hollow tapping noise when you walked on it.  I hated it.

AFTER:

After Front Door

 

Not much of a change, but you can see the beautiful new hardwoods.  I also switched out the entry table for a skinnier table & flipped the mirror on its side.

Here’s another view:

AFTER:

After from Front Door

 

BEFORE:

Before Office

 

This is what should be our formal living room, but is a multi-purpose room (R’s office).  The lovely Golden Tee was sold on Craig’s List to a nice gentleman who has a basement.  Here you can see the dark walls and the nasty carpet!

AFTER:

After office

 

 New floors, new sisal rug, and lighter wall color.

AFTER:

AFTER Office looking into dining roomHere’s another view from the front door looking into the office.  This room is still somewhat in transition, because it doesn’t really have an identity.  I thought this would bother me, but I actually really like coming in here on Sunday afternoons when R’s playing on the computer & we end up chatting for a few hours.  If you have any decoration suggestions for this room I’d love to hear them!  

BEFORE:

Before Dining Room

 

The dining room was one of my least favorite rooms.  The walls were SO red & the carpet was SO disgusting.  I did have a nice big mirror hanging between the lamps, but I had already taken that down when I took this before pic.

AFTER:

After Dining Room

 

Ah, much better…  R hung wood blinds for me in this room & the office.  Now, from the street all of our windows look like they have plantation shutters without the cost of plantation shutters!  This room seems so much bigger & brighter to me now.  

After dining room into kitchen

 

This is a view into the kitchen from the dining room.  I love how my great grandmother’s china really pops off of the new wall color.

BEFORE:

Before Kitchen

 

Again, we were in the middle of  packing everything up, but here you can see the hideous plastic floors make an appearance again.  Also, the light fixtures are terrible. 

AFTER:

After kitchen

 

The new floors look amazing in this room, but you can’t really tell from the pictures.  We switched out the light fixtures, too.  Our dishwasher died the week before Christmas so we now have a brand spankin’ new stainless dishwasher too.  

After Kitchen 2

 

Here’s another view.  The walls got a fresh coat of paint & the cabinets got a deep cleaning. One day we’d love to knock the wall above the stove out, replace the counters & cabinets, but that’s another project for another year.

BEFORE:

BEFORE Family Room

 

Here is from the kitchen looking into the family room.  Again, everything was in the middle of the room or packed up, but note the nasty carpet & dark walls.

BEFORE:

Before Family Room 2

 

Another view of the before of the family room. 

AFTER:

After Family Room

 

This room seems the most different to us.  We LOVE the floors & new wall color in here.  I brought the chairs from the office into here & we got a new rug. Everything seems cozier & cleaner for us.

After Family Room 2

 

Here’s another view.  Check out my mini fur model.  This room only has french doors to the deck & so it can get very dark.  To help this we hung a giant mirror above the sofa to reflect the light from the french doors. Also, you can see the wall (where the clock is hung) into the kitchen that we want to remove one day.

After family room 3

I’d love to paint the brick the same color as the walls & the mantel/trim a white color, remove the fireplace cover & put up a pretty screen, but I’m a little bit afraid to tackle that project ourselves. 

BEFORE:

Before Laundry Room

 

Here is the before of the laundry room.  This room might have been the worst room with the wallpaper & border.  YUCK!

BEFORE:

Before Laundry Room 2

 

BEFORE:

Nasty Floor

 

This is an up close picture of that nasty plastic flooring.  

AFTER:

After Laundry Room

 

Clean, painted walls.

After Laundry Room 2

 

Laundry Room 3

 

Here’s the beautiful tile floor.  We love the floor so much!

Finally here is the before & after of the hallway down to the bedrooms:

BEFORE:

Before Hallway

 

AFTER:

After Hallway

 

So, that about wraps it up!  I’ll do a post with the new carpet when the nursery is all finished.  That’s still a work in progress!

 

 

 

 

 



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Home Improvements

by KT on January 16, 2013

I started to write this post & realized it needed to be broken out into 2 posts.  So, here is an explanation of WHAT we did. Tomorrow I’ll post the before & after pictures.

6.5 years ago when REF bought the house we share now he bought it at the height of the market.  The couple he bought the house from had a giant dog, a boxer.  They let this boxer do whatever it wanted including ruin the carpet.  Since it was the height of the market the sellers weren’t going to pay to replace the carpet.  So, for 6.5 years we’ve dealt with gross carpet.

We now have all new flooring throughout the house.  I cannot fully express how excited this update has made us love our house again.    We did a lot of word of mouth research & found a great local company who is both reliable & affordable.  We ended up putting real hardwoods down in the foyer, living room, dining room, kitchen, family room, and hallway to the bedrooms.  We put giant 12×12 tiles down in the laundry room. & brand new carpet in the bedrooms.  Everything just seems so much CLEANER!

At the same time we did some painting.  We painted the living room, the dining room, the kitchen walls (not the cabinets), the laundry room, the family room & what will be the baby’s room.  

Originally we really wanted to scrape our popcorn ceilings, but it was just SO expensive (more than the hardwood floors!). My mom (a real estate broker) also told us that while it is nice to have smooth ceilings we wouldn’t get the return on the investment if we sold the house in the future. So, we skipped it & I don’t miss it.  We had the painters touch up & paint any areas of the ceiling that need to be freshened up.

Needless to say this was a huge project.  We REF worked really hard on cleaning out the attic to make room for the stuff that is currently in the baby’s room.  Then, we both boxed up books and picture frames.  I then decided to pack up all of our breakables & bring them to my parents’ house.  I’m so glad that I did.  Not because the workers were rough on our stuff, but because there was stuff EVERYWHERE.  We basically packed as if we were moving.  It was insane & I was still having VERY bad morning sickness.  

We were really lucky to be able to move into my parents’ house for a little longer than 2 weeks.  The painter came first, then the flooring people, then the painter came back to touch up.  After all of that we had the cleaning people come do a really deep clean & then we got the house put back together.  Unfortunately, since I was so sensitive to smells at that point I could smell the paint  & carpet for days after REF could.

Stay Tuned for the before & after!

 

 

 



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I thought we were Destined to be Dinks (Dual Income No Kids)

I think I’ve probably written a post about being Dinks in my head about a 1000 times.  I would lay awake at night wondering how my life had taken such a turn & how what I thought was my purpose in life really wasn’t.   You see it wasn’t as easy as everyone says it is for us to get pregnant.  Many of you reading this probably already know this little tidbit.  I haven’t been terribly private in my real life about the subject, but I also haven’t been outwardly public either.

There is a strange amount of guilt & pain that you feel as a woman when you’re told that your body doesn’t work the way it is designed to work.  It is hard to put into words, but trust me when I say you feel inadequate.   Even the most supportive of spouses, friends, and family members can’t fix these feelings. 

Then there is the infertility rabbit hole that you can fall into quite easily.  You know the one where you spend your days on the internet “researching”.  You can find yourself getting together with other friends who are experiencing similar issues to commiserate exchange stories .  These friendships can be both immensely comforting, but equally toxic.   

For REF & me we both always saw a light at the end of the tunnel, but I think REF saw it brighter than I did.  I didn’t really imagine we’d ever be in the situation that we’re in right now: 8 months pregnant.  I kind of just imagined we’d be the really involved aunt & uncle.  I had somewhat come to terms with that.  I found immense solace in driving up to see my nephew, but I’d get the exact opposite feeling when I’d drive home. 

We had done the counting, the temperature taking, the blood samples, the pill popping, the ultrasounds, and even a really painful surgery.  It had gotten to the point, for me, where I felt like we were putting a lot in & only getting an empty bank account in return.

So, after the surgery in May (one that may or may not produce results), we were told to take a break & wait until the fall of 2012 to try any further medical treatments.  We were advised to let our bodies take a break, heal themselves, etc.  While it seemed on the surface like a really dumb decision to put stuff on “hold” after what seemed like FOREVER and a day of trying I trusted our doctor, REF trusted our doctor, and that’s what we decided to do.

So, what happened?  Well, we got pregnant.  I don’t think it was like that cliché that everyone tells you “once you stop thinking about it, it will just happen”, because I never stopped thinking about it, not for a second. Any couple that has been through this knows that you NEVER stop thinking about it.  I still haven’t.  I just think all of the stars aligned & I think everything just happened to decide to “work” at exactly the same time.  The doctors don’t really have an answer as to why & for now I don’t really care as to ‘why’.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the last 3.5 years recently.  I’ve been trying to figure out what it all meant.  I’ve come to realize that the experience REF & I went through brought us together in a way I hadn’t expected.  It made me look at REF in a different light.  He’s much more optimist than I ever realized.  He never once felt the doubt that I did.  He never let the insecurities get to me to.  Sometimes this bugged me because I just wanted to have a pity party some days, but for the most part it made me love him so much more.

I’ve realized we only have 8 weekends left of just our family of 3 (don’t forget about Winston) & I want to make the most of that time we have together.  I realize our lives are about to change in a way I can’t anticipate & can’t plan for…as much as I’ll try.



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I’m BACK!

by KT on January 10, 2013

My guess is that I’ve lost any readers that I had in the first place during my 5 month hiatus, but that’s okay.  Basically I had some weird things happen due to social media & I just needed to take a step back.  Around Thanksgiving I got the urge to blog again, but that’s my super busy time of the work year & I haven’t had a chance to really get back in front of the computer until now.

So, obviously when you’re pregnant a lot can happen in a few months.  I mean really I find myself googling something about pregnancy each week.  I’m going to attempt to do a bullet point catch up…

These aren’t really in any chronological order.

  • I turned 31 on September 27th.  This birthday was a tad bit different than my 30th.
  • My nephew turned 1 year old on September 30th.  I still can’t believe how much I love this little guy.
  • We moved out of our house for 17 days while all the flooring was ripped out, replaced, and most of the walls were painted.  I was so thankful to move back in.
  • I found out two of my friends are also expecting around the same time as us.  It has made this whole experience even more fun.
  • 2 of my other friends HAD their babies & it was surreal to think that we would soon have one too.
  • REF and I found out we are having a little GIRL!  I’m so nervous & overwhelmed about this, but also beyond excited!
  • We celebrated Thanksgiving in Charlotte with my parents, grandparents, sister, brother in law, and nephew. My parents another Wine & Cheese party.
  • I continued to have morning sickness consistently up to 20 weeks & still get sick sporadically now.
  • We registered & I finally got over my fear of decorating the nursery.  I’m trying slowing to EMBRACE the pink.
  • We ordered a BOB stroller when we saw one on super sale.  It was our first real purchase for the baby & made both us really excited.   
  • We said goodbye to Rob’s sweet grandfather.  It was really sad for everyone, but he lived an amazing life.
  • I became mildly obsessed with the West Wing.  As in, we ordered all 8 seasons & I spent all my free time watching every episode.  If you’ve never watched this show I highly suggest doing so, ASAP.
  • We celebrated 4 Christmases: Christmas Eve with REF’s dad & stepmom, Christmas morning with REF’s mom & stepdad, Christmas afternoon with REF’s extended family, and Christmas night with my family.  
  • REF & I hosted my 22 year old cousin & two of his fraternity brothers who drove up from Birmingham to go to the Wide Spread Panic New Years Eve concert.  It was SO fun to see my cousin, but made me feel incredibly old.  
  • I took 5 days of vacation at the end of December. It was divine.

I’m 31 weeks pregnant on Saturday & I do hope to blog more.  I’m going to do a post on the before & after our house, the nursery, and post all the instagram pics I’ve taken of my bump thus far.  PS – if you’re not following me on instagram you should!  My username is KTBFerg.

 



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Thank You!

by KT on September 5, 2012

Thanks so much for all the awesome notes & tweets on my post from last week.  I wasn’t exactly sure I was going to share the news on the blog, but I figured that this is my journal & why not?  I also wasn’t sure HOW I was going to share the news.  It is SO exciting & I couldn’t wait to tell our close friends & family, but it seems strange to just blurt it out.  So, I figured I’d just sneak it in there.  I’m glad y’all caught it!

Tomorrow I’ll officially be 13 weeks & my official due date is March 17th, St. Patrick’s Day!  Since my favorite color is green I took this as a good sign!  Anytime in March would be great though.  My FIL’s birthday is March 10th, my parents’ anniversary is March 15th & My BFF’s birthday is March 23 (please don’t let me go this long).

While we’ve been hoping & praying for a baby for a long time we were totally shocked that I was actually pregnant!  I just knew I had to be when I had been feeling OFF for a week, but I was still totally shocked to see a positive pregnancy test.  I didn’t exactly believe it!  I didn’t do anything cute or fun to tell REF. It all just happened so quickly.

I have to say that my first trimester wasn’t a cake walk.  I felt horrible 95% of the time.  I was incredibly nauseated, bloated, & tired.  Luckily, my OB prescribed me zofran & that helped get me through the work day.  There were only a few times at work that I thought I was going to lose it.  Mostly, I just wanted to take a nap under my desk every day at about 3pm.  For the most part I got sick at home or somewhere that it was okay to be getting sick.  I’m feeling tremendously better now with a lot more energy, but the nausea isn’t 100% gone.  

Lots of people have asked if we’re going to find out the sex of the baby.  The answer is definitely.  Prior to being pregnant I didn’t really have strong feelings one way or the other about it.  REF has always told me that he 100% wanted to find out the sex of any baby we ever had.  After being pregnant I realized that I too wanted to find out the sex.  Maybe for future children (that seems crazy right now) we’d be surprised until the end, but who knows.

As for names we basically dislike any name we can think of right now.  I’m big on family names, as both my parents have traditional family names & so do my sister & I.  REF isn’t sold on a family name, but we’ll see.  I have SO many cousins so a lot of the family names I like have been used & over used.  We may just have to meet the little peanut first before deciding on a name.

If you have any questions, I’m pretty much an open book so feel free to email me!  

Happy Wednesday! 

 



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Some Ups & Some Downs

by KT on August 29, 2012

August was a long month for me.  I thought about blogging about all that was going on, but something just stopped me.  Maybe it was laziness, maybe because some of the things were too personal, maybe just a combination of everything. I decided this morning I would do a quick overview.

  • R & I spent some time at the beach with his whole family.  We were able to celebrate R’s birthday with his family & catch up with everyone.  It was a short trip, but it was nice to be there.
  • The week after the beach (and really I suspect at the beach some) I had a terrible sinus infection.  I worked through it, but by the time I got home from the office I was ready to crash.  Summer colds are no fun!
  • A childhood friend of mine lost his mother to cancer.  I cannot express in words how upset I am for his family.  R was great & came to the visitation, funeral, graveside, and reception after with me.  Her service was beautiful, but incredibly sad.  
  •  We attended The Panther’s first pre-season game with our good friends, Jennifer & Ryan.  They came all the way down from Greensboro to be with us.  It was so nice to see them.
  • My whole family had an amazing trip to Ohio to visit with my dad’s family!  We went to Cincinnati, where my dad grew up.  

 

  • He toured us around his old stomping grounds, took us to the Reds’ Hall of Fame & a Friday night Reds game complete with a WIN for the Reds & fireworks!

  • After Cincinnati we headed up to Columbus where several other family members live.  We had a big family picnic with my aunts, uncles, cousins, cousins’ kids.  It was a lot of fun to catch up with everyone & to meet some of my cousins’ babies.
  • Another childhood friend lost her dad to cancer.  It was incredibly sad to see another family hurting so much.  It was even harder as the two families are best friends & neighbors.  I have felt so helpless & not known what to say to say, as nothing I say can make it better.
  • At the beginning of the summer I was given some added responsibilities at the office.  I was finally able to get the approval from the powers that be to move ahead with a project I’ve been working on.  It was such a relief to have the go ahead on that.
  • I met up with some really fun blog friends who have become like just regular friends for lunch.  It was nice to catch up with them & have a big of girl time.

  • R & I had a really big moment when we were able to finally let our family & our close friends know that come March we were going to be parents & Winston was going to be a big brother.
  • I’m really ready for fall to be here & all that it has to offer to offer like cooler temperatures, football, pretty leaves, etc.

How was your August? 



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4 Years

by KT on July 26, 2012

Four years ago today REF  & I got married.  

It was a whirlwind of a weekend & was gone in the blink of an eye, but man was it fun.  We had SO many of our family members there to celebrate with us & our friends, too.  I remember thinking on Sunday afternoon I couldn’t believe that it was over & we were really husband & wife!

I’m not very good with the sentimental stuff…I actually leave that to REF. 

So, I’ll just say it’s been a wonderful 4 years & I can’t wait to celebrate many, many more.

xoxo

 



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Lifesaver

by KT on July 13, 2012

In 2006 R & I had been dating for about 1.5 years when we were invited to a wedding for a friend of R’s.  The friend & his fiance were registered at a lovely gift shop here in Charlotte.  One that I happened to love window shopping in.  So, when R mentioned he wanted me to pick out their wedding gift I jumped at the opportunity.  It was during this particular trip to the gift shop that I was introduced to “possibly the most beautiful tableware in the world”, Juliska.

I knew right then and there that THIS was the place setting that I wanted to have when I got married.  So, a year later when we were engaged I registered for the Berry & Thread pattern in white wash & pistachio.  I also registered for the Graham mouth blown stemware.

I have LOVED these pieces.  I love how simple, but beautiful they are.  I love how since each piece is handmade they are all just a tad bit different.  I love how they aren’t the run of the mill department/mall store brand.  I love that they are easy enough for everyday, but still beautiful to serve on to company.  I also love that two years later my cousin’s future wife (who has immaculate taste) unknowingly chose the same patterns.  I love the family joke that subsequently followed.

What haven’t I loved?

Well….my silverware was leaving unsightly gray markings on all my pretty Juliska.  After changing dish washing detergents, washing by hand, etc. I called Juliska to tell them about the problem.  They said that I could turn all my pieces into the store where they were bought & get new pieces (pretty awesome customer service) or I could try a product called, Bar Keepers Friend

Well….fast forward from 2009 to last Saturday when I finally decided to try this stuff out.  You see, I knew it would be a project & I knew I needed a time when I was alone in the house to just ‘deal’ with scrubbing all 12 of our place settings & accessories.  Then I wanted to switch out our everyday silverware with the nicer stuff that my mom got us for our wedding.   I also knew after scrubbing I’d want to run them through the dishwasher.  And…I knew R would HATE this project.  So, while he went out to dinner with a client & then to get drinks with the guys on Saturday I hunkered down & got to work.

Did it work?

YOU BET IT DID!!!  I cannot tell you how happy it made me to see my beautiful plates & bowls again.  I had seriously forgotten how pretty my Juliska really is.   

I know this stuff can be used for a whole host of other things so lovers of Bar Keepers Friend let me hear what you use it for!  I can’t wait to try it in other areas around the house.

Also, if you’re getting married in the future I would HIGHLY recommend  Juliska.  It can be found at specialty stores, high end department stores like, Neimans & Bloomingdales, and online.

 

PS – I wasn’t compensated for this post by either Juliska or Bar Keeper’s Friend…I just LOVE both brands. 

 

 

 



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